Thursday, January 12, 2012

Open Mouth...

...Insert foot. Or in this case...tie fingers in a knot and stay off Facebook!

One of my "friends" who I've known since she was a little girl, posted a photo of Miss Texas (I think). Skinny. Terribly skinny. Looks like she works out...but skinny.

I commented something about her not living in the real world and the message our daughters are being sent is that they will never measure up without starvation, a hell of a lot of plastic surgery, and lots of $$$$. Someone else commented how pretty the woman was...she wishes she was that size. I posted the link about the story I heard tonight on ABC about size 6 models now being "full size"! (What does that make me?!) And said that by teaching our daughters and grand daughters to compare their bodies to these in an unreal world was not doing justice to our daughters.

"Friend" commented back that I needed to get my facts together.

I private messaged her. She was on FB at the same time.
Well, she doesn't watch ABC since they are mainstream media and tell lies. What I did not realize - she produces (y'all are gonna gasp here) - she produces little girl pageants. Yep. She told me not to post on her page any more. My last comment was that she was on a public forum...not a private forum.

I exited the private message. Went back to the thread and deleted my posts. Then unfriended her.

Ay-yi-yi! This young lady is larger than I am. Her precious little daughter is a cute little dumpling. And she's pushing the skinny-minny body image. We need to teach our daughters that they are precious. To treat their body respectfully. To eat healthy. To exercise. That either side - too skinny or too fat - is not healthy. I am amending that sentence to read, "That either side - anorexic skinny or morbidly obese - is not healthy."

But...I shouldn't've commented to start with. It would've been better if I'd just shook my head, let it slide by, and ignored it.

5 comments:

karenfae said...

we don't all make comments that others appreciate. I totally agree with you on teaching girls to be healthy - even if that means they are naturally chunky or skinny. I tend to only have "friends" on facebook that are family, I don't want to get into having so many "friends" that I don't know who they are - I started doing that at first and then realized I didn't know these people and took them off.
Karen

Holee said...

Those little girl pagents make me sick..so does the dance Mom show. They don't get it. Shirley Temple had talent, no fake teeth or eyelashes...oh well, don't get me started! I don't think we have to all think the same. I'm always in trouble for my opinions, but Frankly, I don't give a Darn. Guess maybe that's why I get deleted..

Ducky said...

There was nothing wrong with commenting. People who produce those pagents should be in prison. There's very little difference between dressing up little girls like hookers and well dressing them up like hookers...

elsie123 said...

I, like I'm sure many others, have to agree with you. The little girls in our lives need to like themselves as they are and for who they are. These pageants, and just society in general, who place emphasis on appearance are sending the wrong messages.

Calico Mermaid said...

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. We all make our own decisions about raising our children.
But...
I agree with you. Maybe she'll stop & think a little. You never know when you've planted just a tiny seed.
Georg.